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Life after the 12 Steps – Personal Development

This is a partial recording of a conversation I had regarding the glaring parallels I see between a 12-step program* and the principles that underpin goal setting and attainment in any area of life.
*of recovery from alcohol, drugs, or any other self-destructive addictive behaviour pattern. 

The early 20th century was a golden era for self-help literature and programs, with a lot of famous authors being contemporaries. 

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Resource for articles on personal growth

SelfGrowth.com is a resource I personally recommend. They have literally thousands of articles and links to websites covering all aspects of the personal growth and personal development arena. Whatever subject you can think of that falls under the umbrella of personal development, you are bound to find plenty to study by checking with them. It’s saves trawling the Internet for hours looking for the right thing, as this is a specialist website dealing only with related topics. 

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Be a Go-Giver not a Go-Getter

Make no mistake, we get back from life only what we put in. To reap any rewards from The Universe we must first provide goods or services of equal or greater value to that which we wish to receive. So be a “go-giver”, not a “go-getter”.

This does not mean we will always struggle to get ahead and “make a profit”, but it does mean the person to whom we supply these goods or services must feel they too are gaining from the transaction and relationship. Otherwise there is disparity and one party will feel they have “lost out” on the deal, and this is never good business practice in the long run. 

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Begin Within!

The answer to ALL your problems is YOU!

If you want to change your external circumstances, be they your finances, your relationships, you health, or your business situation and more, the changes MUST begin within. Beginning on Monday – March 21st, 2016 – is a new series of daily mentoring tips from Darren Hardy, CEO and editor of Susccess Magazine. 

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Law of Attraction: I want proof!

In my experience the very best way to prove the existence (or not) of the Law of Attraction is to ask my students to do their own detective work. It’s easy, it doesn’t take up much time, and all the evidence they could possibly need is buried in their own memories; all they have to do is dig a little deeper than they have ever been asked before.

An example of the usual depths people dig into their memories is to remember some event in their past. That’s it. They never delve any further than the event itself. Well if you want concrete proof whether the Law of Attraction exists or not, try this little experiment for yourself. 

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Healthy Living: small steps in the right direction

Certainly without wishing to belittle their achievements or offend the average doctor or pharmacist, it’s fair to say that health is not strictly speaking their area of expertise. The average doctor rarely, if ever, cuts open and looks inside a healthy person. Usually that person is either already sick or already dead.These wonderful people are in the business of fighting illness and not necessarily promoting health, though in fairness to them they do pay it more than lip-service.

The fact is your average doctor or pharmacist tends not to have a degree in health, and if everyone were healthy neither doctors or pharmacists would have anything to do. One has a wealth of knowledge about the mechanics of sickness in the human body, while the other is a specialist in chemicals to fight sickness. 

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Bob Proctor

I think I can safely say without fear of contradiction that Bob Proctor is the grandaddy of personal development on the world stage today. During a career as teacher, guide, author, coach and speaker, spanning half a century, Bob, who is now in his 80s, is probably best known by the masses outside the arena of personal development as one of the stars of the film “The Secret”.

A millionaire many times over, and the head of a number of highly successful businesses worldwide, life wasn’t always a bed of roses for the Canadian. In his youth he dropped out of school with no qualifications and went from one dead end job to another for some years before finally settling in the fire service. 

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Women, ethnic groups, and younger people

Are these people represented in the world of personal development, if so by whom, and are there materials and courses tailored specifically for them?

You may be forgiven at first glance for thinking the world of personal development is entirely populated by white, middle-class, middle-aged men, and aimed at a similar demographic. Do not allow that first glance to put you off.

Firstly, a lot of those men started out decidedly working class. Secondly, if it seems there are not enough women, ethnic groups or young people represented in the movement, that may well be the case, but you can’t force people to step up and teach, that has to be their own decision.

The good news is that all those groups are represented if you scratch the surface, and many from those groups are very successful and highly regarded by their peers in the arena. Some truly amazing women whose works are at the forefront of the personal development world are; Mary Morrissey, Maya Angelou, Oprah Winfrey, Martha Beck and Ricki Byers-Beckwith, though there are many more once you start to look.

The same can be said for people from different ethnic backgrounds, prominent examples being; Michael Beckwith, Robert Kyosaki and Les Brown, all of whom I study and enjoy immensely; and there is a young man with many books on the market who ‘translated’ his father’s best-selling and hugely empowering works into books aimed specifically at teens and young people, Sean Covey, son of Stephen R. Covey. There is also available ‘The Secret to Teen Power’, a spinoff of the highly successful book and film ‘The Secret’.

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Jack Canfield

Jack Canfield is a bit of a personal hero of mine, and though I’m not someone to put people on a pedestal, once in a while you have to make an exception.

In early 1968 in Chicago, a chance encounter with a fellow student at Chicago University was to spark in Jack Canfield a lifelong interest in the possibilities of human potential which would in time have a far-reaching and positive impact on the lives of many hundreds of thousands of people worldwide, if not millions.

During that early period he was teaching children in inner city schools, had fairly low self-esteem, and some inherited negative views towards wealth and the wealthy; but soon after the encounter an opportunity presented itself to work for the W. Clement & Jessie Stone Foundation, and all that was to change for ever.

One of the most significant lessons he learned from Stone was to seek to uncover the opportunity in every situation and in every encounter. Change is one of life’s inevitabilities whether you like it or not, so you may as well embrace it rather than resist it. With that attitude you will begin to see opportunities where others see only adversity. 

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Some frequently used terms explained

Metaphysics and neuroscience. What exactly are they, and how do they relate to each other?

Here are some examples of dictionary definitions of the two words, but in the realm of personal development there’s a bit more to it than can be summed up in a single sentence.

Metaphysics: The philosophical study of being and knowing.
Neuroscience: The scientific study of the nervous system.

Metaphysics: real or imaginary?

‘Metaphysics’ can be viewed as those phenomena which fall outside the “laws” of the scientific method, particularly the laws of physics. For example you may assume that a God in all or any of its forms would fall into that category because, regardless of how many people believe in a God, science has yet to prove with empirical evidence that there is one. 

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